On Death & Dying
I wanted to take some time to write about the death and the dying process.
I currently have two family members who are dying and this has brought to
light for me the fact that although I am comfortable with my faith and with
death and what happens after you die due to strong beliefs, others may not be
as comfortable as I am.
Because of this I wanted to offer my views in the hope it might help someone
with what they are going through or even offer another view for thought.
I believe in one God, now you don’t have to believe in my God but whatever
God or Higher Power you do believe in I hope like me that Higher Power provides
you with comfort and a secure feeling.
I was brought up to never discount anyone’s religion so long as it was
“nonviolent”.
I respected all others
beliefs and knew that being a good person and trying to live every day in light
that I was doing what was right.
Now not
everyone has been brought up the same as I was.
I know many people who were brought up with the Fire & Brimstone way
and they are terrified of so much.
I
feel bad for those people.
Granted my family
is very old, we have set beliefs but religion was
NEVER off the table at any
time and if I had a question about anything good or bad I could go to my
Grandparents or Mother and ask and I was always told my question was valid and
good.
I was sat down and things were
explained to me but with a back and forth dialect that allowed me to learn and
to grow and form my own views and beliefs.
I was never told if I did not believe a specific thing or way I would go
to Hell or be struck down by a Higher Power.
I know for this I am lucky and it has allowed me to have clear
beliefs.
These beliefs have brought me
comfort in my life, especially at difficult times when others may have questioned
their faith.
The older I have gotten I have become very comfortable with the belief of
reincarnation.
This first came to me in
2009 when my cat Maxxwell Smart passed away in my arms after a 5 year battle
with liver cancer.
One of my spiritual guides
told me Maxxwell had been with me before in several lives and he wanted to come
back to me again in this lifetime.
I
knew however Maxxwell being the Patriarch of the animal family in my home would
want to wait for the others to pass over to welcome them before he would allow
himself to come back.
Since that time I have had dogs & cats pass and so far two have come
back to me with the help of another Spiritual Guide that I have.
In fact this past August 2011 two cats came
back to me for a second lifetime with me.
There is no easy way to explain how this process works but I can say it
does and I have ZERO doubts that these two cats are my cats from previous.
In all honesty my Veteranian also believes
the same as I do and she has said in her heart without a doubt both cats are
the same souls as she knew them before.
This process still amazes me but it is so beautiful that I believe it is
another gift we are given from the Higher Powers.
Because of this I without a doubt feel once we die that that is not the end
for people or animals.
I am not saying
we all have to believe in a Heaven or a Hell or a Purgatory but in my belief
there is something after death for our soul.
You see one of my gifts is that I can communicate with my loved ones
when I am sleeping or in deep meditation.
Many times I have seen my dogs & cats and even my Uncle, Aunt & Grandfather
in both of these states.
I have been
told of things and directed specific ways.
I can also see these loved ones are restored in good health and where
they are is light and comfortable and they are happy and calm.
The feeling that comes over me is one of pure
peace.
Do you remember on a beautiful
day sitting and listening to the wind in the trees, hearing birds talk and just
enjoying the sun on your face and the warmth on your body as the sun hugs
you?
This peace and tranquility is what
I see and feel each time I communicate with my family and loved ones.
Because of this I have pure belief in where
they are after death.
The soul does live
on to heal and learn from mistakes.
If each soul makes the decision to come back to earth they are allowed to
come back again to learn and to grow for another time.
See, each time we are here we are allowed to
come back to learn what we didn’t get to learn last time and to grow to become
a better person a more whole and complete soul.
These decisions we make to come back are all on our own we are not
forced and when we come back the decisions we make are our own to own and it is
up to us as we grow on earth to get it right and grow spiritually each time we
are here.
We all have it in us to be a pure spiritual being, to be wise with our
years.
Our final goal is to perfect our
life on earth to learn all we can to make the best impact we can so we can make
the final decision to not have to come back and reincarnate, that we have made
the best impact with our soul that we could on this earth.
Perfect examples of this are Mother Theresa,
Pope John Paul II and Gandhi,
all were wise
souls beyond their years.
These are
glowing examples of souls who have used all of their lifetimes here on earth to
spread love and learn all they can and help all they can to obtain the highest
level of wisdom and spirituality they can to make the biggest positive impact
on earth.
We all can learn to do this
and we should.
As I see my Grandmother in hospice and I see her body fail her I know her
being on earth is no longer fair.
When
you are trapped in your body with only your mind it is not a way to live.
To feel your body has betrayed you where you
cannot get out of bed, care for yourself and even handle your own body
functions then your dignity is gone.
As my Grandmother makes her decent to meet her Higher Power I am confident
and secure knowing her loved ones will be there to greet her with open arms and
smiling faces.
A few weeks ago when she
could speak she was telling us how she sees her Husband who passed in 2002 and
her Mother who passed when I was a child over 30 years ago.
To me this is a sign of the soul living on
after death and the veil is being lifted for her and she is being allowed to see
what we cannot see in daily life which is they are still very close to us and
can see us.
We cannot see them because
this life and all of the fast paced worldly actions have made us impervious to
the spirit world.
But children, animals
and those close to passing are able to see what we no longer can and it is a
wonderful gift for them.
My Grandmother is in now an almost comatose state where she is in bed and
her eyes are closed.
She can no longer
eat or drink and she cannot respond to you verbally.
When you touch her she flinches but that is
the only response you will see.
I feel
her body which at one time was a trap is now just a vessel and her soul is starting
it’s decent to a better place.
I do feel
in my heart that when you speak to her she can hear you so I talk to her when I
see her to let her know I am here.
As I write this today Wednesday, September 12, 2012 my I received word from
my Father that my Grandmother passed away in her sleep.
This is a sad moment but I am happy of
several things about this.
I am happy
she passed in her sleep peacefully as this is a gift many do not get when they
pass this earth.
I am also happy because
yes we always want our loved ones to stay here with us but we cannot be selfish
and think of ourselves, we need to think if them.
I am happy she is now on her journey back to
health and wholeness again.
No longer to
suffer and I do believe she will be happiest with her husband now after over 50
years of marriage to be reunited is a wonderful thing.
My Dad now as sad as he is to let his Mother
go is happy she is out of pain and believes where she is going is a better
place where she will now be whole and happy.
Have a beautiful journey Grandma.
I will share with you something very personal to me that I have not told
many.
In 2001 my Uncle was in hospice
passing from Colon cancer and it was the night before he passed.
The Doctors had put him in a drug induced
coma because the pain was unbearable and not one soul on earth should have to
feel that pain.
When I approached my
Uncle in his bed I held his hand and started to get close to him and speak to
him.
I told him I loved him and that he
was OK to leave that everyone would be OK, we would care for each other and he
needed to go home and to let his body heal.
My Uncle started to cry, tears were coming
down his face though his body was in a coma state.
When I spoke to my Uncle he was also able to
hold my hand ever so slightly but it was noticeable how it felt.
This let me know that even when the body is
failing you that your mind still helps you to hear so you can make decisions.
After I told my Uncle to go he did start his
decent.
He waited until his entire
family was in the room with him and all around his bed and that is when he left
to go on his journey home.
My Grandfather is currently in Palliative Care which is the step before
Hospice Care.
He has numerous health
concerns including Parkinson’s which is the hardest for him right now as it has
literally trapped his body where he fights against it.
My Grandfather has always been a pure beacon of light for all my life and
for all who have the pleasure to know him.
Your life was changed for the better when he was in your life.
There are sayings I have heard through my
life to the effect “angels walk on earth or someone is an angel sent by
God”.
I do believe my Grandfather was a
gift because of all those he affected in such a positive way.
As a child when I would look at my
Grandfather I would see a beautiful white light that surrounded him.
As I got older this light became white and
pink but it never faded and has never gone away.
He is a pure soul who I feel has been here on
earth before and this time he has shown so much wisdom that I feel the wisdom
& pure heart is what I would see in color around him.
My Grandfather made such a positive impact on my life that to me he is an
almost perfect man.
If scientists could
clone him then all women in the world would be as happy as my Grandmother to
have someone in their life with a pure heart and soul.
If my Grandfather did decide to reincarnate I
could not see how he could get any better in another lifetime.
If he did come back I feel I would have to
add to the list of pure souls with Mother Theresa, Pope John Paul II and Gandhi
with my Grandfathers name next.
I believe that like my cats that my Grandmother, Grandfather and Uncle will
reincarnate into another life if they make the decision to do so.
What a beautiful option that is.
I hope this helps you or provides you food for thought.
I welcome any comments or questions.
Blessings to you for a beautiful life.
Victoria
